For 27 years i was living in an environment where I was verbally abusive stole my joy and pushed me to the brink of despair. It was an very dark time in my life. The constant negativity made me feel like I had no abilities or worth in this world. I began to believe that I was incompetent and that I could not produce anything good. That experience lead me to have suicidal ideation. I had abandoned myself, blaming myself for the treatment I was receiving.
Understanding My Dignity in Christ Changed How I Perceived Myself
My journey toward healing began when I started to understand my dignity in Christ. When I realized that I am a child of God I was able to see worth in myself. As children of God, we are inherently valuable and loved. By being a child of God this affects everything that I do. It has an impact on how we speak, how we will, and how we respond to the world. Knowing this truth was a significant step in reclaiming my self-worth. I finally felt like I belonged somewhere. I belong to the Father.
Forgive Freely the People That Hurt You
Forgiveness played a crucial role in my healing process. I could not understand how people who claimed to love me where treating me this way. I had to understand that those who treated me poorly did so out of their own brokenness. This allowed me to have compassion for them and it allowed me to understand that their treatment did not reflect my inherent worth. If they truly knew my identity in Christ, they would not have treated me that way.
Understand The Way of the Cross
Another thing that helped me was realizing that everyone has their cross to carry because we live in a fallen world. That was/is my pain to experience in this life. It’s also about how do we choose to carry our pain. It’s time to rise above chaos with the word of Jesus. It’s also very helpful to offer your pain to God for your own redemption. Verbal abuse takes a toll on a person it’s important to take care of oneself and live through this situation the best you can.
The Power of Christian Affirmation
Affirmations are the only thing that really helped me rebuild my confidence and self-worth. These Christian affirmations were the words I wished someone had told me while I was living in a verbally abusive home
- I am a child of God, I am loved and I am precious
- I speak to myself with respect and dignity
- I am blessed with wisdom and discernment to make righteous decisions
- God has given me unique talents and abilities to contribute positively to the world
- I deserve the space I occupy in this world
- I am seen with love in the eye of the Lord
I would repeat those affirmations multiple times a day to really reprogram my mind from the verbal abuse that I heard for so long. And it worked !! But mind you it’s a work in progress. It won’t happen after couples of days. I have been on this journey since last year. Praying over the blood of Jesus is also very helpful when it comes to healing.
You Belong To The Lord. Nobody Can Tell You About Who You Are Other Than God !
Healing from verbal abuse is a journey that requires time, patience, and a deep connection with God. Understanding your identity in Christ, practicing forgiveness, and using affirmations can help you reclaim your dignity and confidence. Remember, you are a precious child of God, deserving of love and respect.
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